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The emotional turmoil and pain that results from a tragic event, such as the loss of a loved one is unbearable. For some people, accepting that they no longer have the possibility to see and talk to that person while enjoying a pleasant and relaxing walk together becomes impossible. Yes, the loss of a parent or a friend represents one of the negative but natural things that any individual experiences at some point. However, nobody prepares in advance for such a depressing event. In fact, even the idea or thought that your loved ones will leave this world is hard to digest. Unfortunately, it happens that you cannot do anything to stop it. All you can do is grieve in order to cope with the loss of your significant one. According to experts, the grieving process includes several stages, namely denial or shock, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Even though people have different reactions when they hear about the death of a loved one, these represent the most common stages that most have to experience before finally dealing with the thought.

The first three stages of the grieving process

Starting with the first stage, it can vary, from entering a state of emotional shutdown to refusing to face the reality. From the outside, it appears like the respective person does not feel anything related to the loss of such an important family member or friend, but only because of the suppressed emotions, which have the same purpose as a shield, namely to provide protection against the unbearable pain caused by such a tragic event. The numbness alternates with moments of acknowledgement meaning that the person actually understands the implications of what happened. In the next stage, anger takes over. Even if it does not make sense, the mourner blames or accuses the deceased one of abandonment. Some people also resort to different methods to communicate with the departed significant one through free medium chat. In what concerns bargaining, it refers to thoughts related to the prevention of such a disheartening event or minimization of the consequences associated with the respective event, which is useless because nobody can turn back time.

When grief becomes depression and refuses to go away

After realizing his or her inability of changing things, the person becomes depressed. This stage is very important because not all people manage to complete it. The warning sings clearly showing the state of depression include the incapability of finishing work-related projects or returning to work in the first place, isolation, the inability of maintaining healthy relationships with those around, overwhelming feelings of irritability and anger that do not seem to disappear even months after the unfortunate event. More importantly, the person no longer is able to enjoy quality sleep or eat, which generally leads to serious health issues. This is normal immediately, a few days or even a few weeks after the loss of the loved one, but if depression does not seem to go away, family members and friends must take measures in order to prevent another tragic event, namely suicide.